Happy Valentines Day

I'm actually anti-Valentine's Day.  I feel the need to state that before I continue with this post.  Valentine's day is a commercially thought-up holiday that makes loners feel like losers and lovers feel less than loved because of some false need to show "romance" on a particularly stated day.  I get it, I really do; there is nothing fun (Groundhog's day is... like seriously, we still do this???) between New Year's and Easter.  I mean, St. Patrick's Day is is fun- and I like a hard night of green beer as much as the next party person but it's not a day off.  Nor is Groundhog's Day; nor is Valentine's Day.  So somewhere along the way, someone dreamed up "holidays" to cure the long wait between New Years and Easter, and then retailers commercialized them.  Clap.... clap.... clap....

And really, the history behind it is SO far off how it is actually celebrated, it's almost nauseating.  I even wore a green sweater today instead of the red one on purpose so I wouldn't be reminding myself of this silly day.

I am not a romantic person.  Go ahead... doubt me all you want.  T. and I were at a hockey game last night and a lady behind us (who seemed intoxicated, actually) was convinced that I was a liar, because I didn't "require" anything for V-Day.  She kept giving T. a knowing look suggesting that if he didn't pull something out of his hat tomorrow, I would never let him hear the end of it.  Don't get me wrong.  I really do appreciate that he bought me a dozen gorgeous roses on my birthday; I'm a total sucker for flowers; and I really love when he kisses me gently on the forehead, and I love when we cook together, and I love snuggle-time!!!  I really, really do!  What I completely detest, is the way retailers, manufacturers and society as a whole force you to do it on a particular day, "if you REALLY love her/him".  Bullshit!  I love the romantic gestures more so because they aren't forced!  What I completely detest, is that in doing nothing it can lead to feelings of "maybe he/she doesn't care for me the way I thought" or "maybe everyone is right; I DO deserve better".

So I caved.  I bought him a V-Day card.  And that's it.  I bought him some drinks last night and I really wanted to make it a fun night with him.  We said "Happy V-Day" to each other, but we didn't plan to go to the game for our V-Day proclamation.  His buddy had tix he couldn't use and asked us if we wanted them.  How unromantic.  But comfortable.  And sweet; because it wasn't forced.  It was just us, being us.

Maybe your significant other goes all out on V-Day.  Congratulations to you.  For all you celebrating "Singles Awareness Day" hold your head up!  You were single yesterday and you will be tomorrow.  Just rock your fine self.  I heard about single ladies celebrating "Gal-entine's Day" as a girls night.  Whatever floats your boat.  But please don't feel like you are not loved, because everyone is loved.  Please don't feel like you are less deserving because the gesture wasn't huge.  Please don't feel inadequate for being who you are.

And don't forget, besides celebrating a day of love, remember to love yourself.  If you can't love yourself, who will be able to love you?  You are lovable.   We are all lovable.  We are all worthy of love.